veriohukainen's journey

I recently applied for a new job within my government role, hoping for more remote days since my current position has become unbearable. I've been here for three years, and on my non-remote days, I often find myself with nothing to do, facing a terrible office environment and a frustrating commute. Thankfully, my boss is wonderful and supportive, especially regarding my health issues, but I feel stuck in a position that's not helping me grow. After two interviews, I received an email asking for references, but I don't have anyone from previous jobs I can reach out to. This puts me in a tough spot with two choices: I could put in my notice and ask my current boss for a reference, risking everything since I haven't been officially offered the new position yet. Alternatively, I could tell them I've changed my mind and stay in my current role, which feels stagnant and unfulfilling. I'm really torn. I fear that if I stay, I might be in the same situation three years down the line, exhausted and unfulfilled. I don’t have friends or family to discuss this with, so I’m looking for any advice on how to navigate this challenging decision.